Being a Rhode Island trans-gendered (also known as “trans”) teenager is not easy. It's never easy, if you really think about it. I often ask myself, “Why me? Why me?” However, I know that I am not alone. I have many friends who are also trans and are going through the same difficulties. Some people are really nice about it and accept it. For others, it's hard to accept it - but they get around it. Unfortunately, some people are cruel, critical and judgmental about a person being trans.
I recently had a fight with someone about being trans; afterwards, I posted this on Facebook:
“Why does it have to be me? I hate being trans! I wish one could be born the gender one feels inside, instead of having to go through all this stuff!”
In response to the post, a close friend, who is also trans, called me. He is more experienced about being trans and he told me these very important words: “I think it's cool being trans because we get more experience in life about how the world really is. A lot of people don't see the dangers and risks. But we get to experience life to its fullest.”
I have never forgotten those words.
My parents and I were once talking about my identity as a trans. They told me that it was sad and difficult for them to accept me. I replied that I understood how they felt. I knew that they had to let go and replace the “little girl” they loved with a boy. I started to cry, thinking that nothing good could come out of this. I felt hopeless about the future. My mother looked at me and said, “You know, some people are born on third base and think they've hit a triple.” I understood that she meant that some people's lives are not nearly as easy as others. I knew then that she was right and even though life can be tough and unfair, I know that one day, I'll hit a home run!
There are different ways that people look at us. But no matter what, I carry my mom and my friend's words in my heart. I know that I am who I am and that wherever I go, there will always be risks and dangers as well as rewards for me. I hold my head up high, also knowing that I'm happy with who I am and nothing will change that. If people don't accept me, they can just keep walking by.
I believe that everybody who is different still has a chance.